Moment of the Day

It has been a goal of mine, each day of 2014, to write a short note of the best moment of the day and put it in a ceramic jar.  At the end of this year I will read them; my 2014 “highlights”. I teach music to kindergarten through 6th grade kids in a rural,…

Impossibilities

It’s been two and a half years since we’ve seen Daddy/Hubby and our immigration counselor filed everything with the National Visa Center four days ago.  Since then my son has been weepy, waking too early, hurting himself on everything he touches, peeing the bed, got in a major dog pile on the playground, had bad dreams,…

Failing at the non-essentials

On February 11, 2014 I put a voice recording on my phone.  As I listen to it now, I can hear myself repeatedly coughing (I was recuperating from pneumonia) and fighting tears. “I’m struggling with single-parenting and full-time mom’ing and visa requirements for getting Patrick here and Solomon is eight homework assignments behind and I’m…

Legal documents

What does it take to get an original and/or certified legal document in America? You go online and get the contact details on the correct website. You then write, email, or call the correct office, verify your identity, pay the fee with your card over the phone or online or by check, and receive a…

Jumping off bridges

Ten years of marriage to Patrick September has been like leaping off Kelsey Creek bridge on the Scott River:  scary, completely out of my control or comfort zone, breath-taking, shocking upon landing. I was particularly blue when Patrick called this morning. He made a joke about throwing me off a bridge, something our best friend told…

Overworked angels

Solomon has been fighting one bug after another for months.  Wednesday Jenna, school angel number 1 comes into my classroom and says, “Solomon is complaining of ear pain.  I’ll cover your class.  Go take care of him.”  He barfs up the tablets I’m trying to get down him in the school kitchen; I have another…

Forgiveness

Last August I was shocked when a family member committed a gross breach of boundaries and further stunned when very few members of my family believed me or responded to my complaint.  However it’s not surprising.  It’s habitual – a lifelong pattern that somehow he’s gotten away with for, well, all his life.  People don’t…

Sunday Naps

It was a Sunday afternoon, I was exhausted, and wished Solomon still took naps.  He wasn’t complying with my wish so I played the ultimate ace, telling him how when I was a kid, my dad always made us take Sunday naps.  Suddenly he plopped himself on his bed and said, “dads are wise that way.”

no grace in graceland

Tonight I’m listening to Paul Simon’s Graceland while I clean the frig.  Being married to a South African of colour (not misspelled), having spent time in the townships, and fairly familiar with the South African “sound”, I can’t help but wonder if the South Africans got proportionately the profit for their contribution to that album,…

Get a Dog

This morning I went into a coffee shop and saw six senior citizens – to my left, a couple; he on his laptop, she texting on her Iphone.  To my right, three men and one woman, sitting, sipping, laughing, talking.  It made me want to start quilting – or fishing – or card playing –…

Beauty, by definition

I was in line at the grocery store standing behind three girls; all black, all quirky teenager, all kinky-trying-to-resist-being-straightened hair. They were looking at a magazine cover which touted “The Most Beautiful Woman,” with a picture of Gwyneth Paltrow, all white, all confident adult, all glossy blonde hair. Without thinking, I, all sunburned, all sassy…

Perfume for Dogs

When I must shop at Costco, I survive by dragging Solomon along for what we call “sample hunting.”  One day, as we were charging the aisles, consuming little bits of everything from Brie cheese to smoked ham to raviolis, we happened upon cushions that looked like squishy, over-sized bagels where the center had filled in…